Had my cleft surgery today. Bit sore and tired but my surgeon is happy with how it turned out. Not seen how I look yet because of the dressings and feels a bit numb. Gonna have to get some more surgeries in a few months. But at least I’m closer to ending this chapter of my life.
Anyway now I’m just trying to kill the boredom. Also the hospital doesn’t have many vegan options on it’s menu :/
Glad to hear everything went well! Hope your recovery is quick and painless! Take care of yourself <3
I totally know how you feel. It’s really hard to make a good first impression in your new classes when you’re worried about how you look and sound. You’re going to have to go through your like “Cleft Palate in 30 Seconds” speech to explain things to classmates and strangers.
I think the comparing yourself to other girls thing is really hard to give advice on because we all do it. Cleft or not. It’s harder on us clefties. But still. The way I’ve dealt with it is the fake it till you make it thing. I acted like I liked the way I looked and tried to educate everyone on what a cleft was so they weren’t ignorant anymore (that separated the tactlessly curious from the genuinely mean spirited) and just owned it.
I mean that’s not really helpful when you’re at the stage in your life where you don’t like the way you look and you are unhappy. But the fake it till you make it stuff really does work. When I started faking positivity and faking that I thought I was pretty my confidence got a huge boost until I wasn’t faking anymore.
Just be kind to yourself. Don’t add to the negativity. Try to be positive. Comparing yourself to others is toxic for anyone.
Followers! Please chime in with real, substantial advice where I have failed!
Wishing you the best of luck back at college, my friend <3
Really feeling low and struggling with self esteem. Hate not feeling good enough. People have done poos hotter than me.
It’s okay to struggle and feel down your feelings are totally valid and significant and important! Just don’t stay there! Try to be positive and be kind to yourself!
Hope you feel better soon! If you ever need to chat there’s plenty of cute clefties over here to bring some positivity over on to ya! <3
Hi! I’m so sorry that it’s taken me literally 2 weeks to respond to this. I just started back in college and things got crazy and anywho
I am so glad that you found something in this blog! I couldn’t be more happy to hear that you feel better <3 Positivity and community is what it’s all about and it’s wonderful that you get to participate in that :)
I wish you all the best and welcome you back any time to talk! Sorry again for taking so long to respond.
Best wishes <3